Sexual Health Issues - Sex Tips And Sex Advice

Males Can Have Multiple Orgasms As Well - See How

2006-12-06T00:24:00.000-08:00

The culmination of sex is hopefully an amazing orgasm, the explosion of nerve endings all over your body that make you feel out of this planet. For years, it has been heard through the news that women can have multiple orgasms, a term that refers to the ability to have a very intense orgasm with mini orgasms within the same orgasm or afterwards. In a word, something super intense that lasts more than the usual regular orgasm.

Women's reproductive organs are very different from the male's one, especially when it comes to the physiology of an orgasm. Females have the clitoris, which is probably the part of their body with more sensation and more nerve endings, males have their "clitoris", which is located just under the shaft of the penis tip, very sensibly area.

What about the G-Spot? The G-spot has gained major attention in the last years and males go crazy trying to find out where this spot is to pleasure their partner, but what about a male's G-Spot? Do we have one? If we do, is there a way to stimulate it to have the same effect that women do? Have a multi-orgasm? Actually we do, its not as perfect as it is in females, but our prostate gland serves as the male's g-spot area.

So how can males have a multi-orgasm? There are several ways, but I will concentrate on the main two. This method helps to increase sensitivity, helps to fight premature ejaculation problems and it intensifies the orgasmic sensation, making it last longer or have multiple.

A good way to master this technique is through masturbation and for those who think is bad for you, no its not, its healthy and super natural. Through Masturbation you can know what you like, dislike and your limits.

Lets pay attention now and get to this, females this is good stuff for you as well, you got to pleasure your partner, too.

If you are doing this manually, during intercourse or an oral session do the following:

While in the act, if you feel that an orgasm is approaching try to stop and add some pressure with your finger to the tip of the penis and wait for 20-30 seconds before continuing the act. You can also pull gently down on your testicles when you feel its coming, this will prevent you from having an orgasm, for now.

This will be hard, especially for those who have premature ejaculation, but believe me, by doing this you are re-training your nerve endings. Try doing this for a few minutes and this will give you a more powerful orgasm, if you are lucky, multiple of them. Also, this is a great exercise to get rid of premature ejaculation.

Another great exercise you can do to be multi-orgasmic is to stimulate your prostate gland. You can massage the area between your anus and testicles, adding pressure and massaging it while in the act will increase sensitivity and intensify your orgasm.

If you are more brave then you can insert your finger slowly where the sun doesn't shine until you feel a walnut size object, your prostate. Once you feel it, massage it slowly and increase pressure as you go, this is your g-spot, if you are in there already, take advantage of it!

Ahhh, one thing, you can ask your partner to do this while you concentrate on doing other things, so now go give it a try to one of the two and tell me what you think. Good Luck!

Penis Surgery Patient Sends Bomb To Doctor

2006-12-05T11:20:00.000-08:00

Want to hear something really crazy? Black Steidler, a 25 year old from Philadelphia apparently was very unsatisfied with the results of his penis enlargement surgery that he opted to send a little gift to his surgeon. A bomb was the gift this genius patient decided to take to his surgeon via snail-mail.

A man who mailed a bomb to a doctor because he was angry about how his penis enlargement surgery turned out was sentenced to four years and 10 months in prison.

Unbelievable or not, mr. Steidler returned home and immediately called 911 telling them what exactly he had done; the bomb was safely removed and no one was injured.

So what did Mr. Steidler gain from this experience? A very unsatisfied result, some prison time and a 3-5 years supervisory released plus a $2,000 fine. If you ask me, that is a very arduous process to go through after penis enlargement surgery.

The Best 10 Condoms To Use

2006-12-02T14:57:00.000-08:00

When it comes to sex and being safe there is nothing as protective as abstinence, but who wants to abstinent from sex nowadays?

To have a healthy sexual relationship is to be careful of all of the Sexually Transmitted Diseases out there, which are many and day by day they are becoming more aggresive.

Condoms are one of the most used sources of STDs prevention and unwanted pregnancies. Many times when buying condoms it becomes a struggle because you want the best for sensitivity, but the best protection as well.

Here I present you the best 10 condoms to give you and your partner equal pleasure, but protect you as well.

Top 10 Best Condoms

1) Beyond Seven Condoms: Made of a super thin latex called "Sheerlon". Can be made thinner and stronger than other condoms.

2) Trojan Elexa Ultra Sensitive: Trojan's thinnest condom. Straight Wall design with Reservoir Top.

3) Durex Love Condoms: Sensitive feeling, easy on and larger sized for a much better fit and comfort.

4) Crown Skinless Skin Condoms: Thinnest Latex Condom, makes it feel like you are not wearing a condom. They are slightly above average in size for more comfort.

5) Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms: Durex's thinnest and most sensitive latex condom. Feel closer to your lover.

6) Trustex Ribbed & Studded: Ribbed and Studded for Her pleasure.

7) Impulse bare Pleasure Condoms: Characteristics: Average in length and girth. Combines raised studs and ribs.

8) LifeStyles His N Her Pleasure: Larger head so he doesn't feel trapped in the condom. Textured Ribbed surface for her pleasure features many raised bumps on the condom shaft.

9) Kimono MicroThink Condoms: As the name implies. These are very thin in design for a better feel. Form fitted for more comfort.

10) LifeStyles Dual Pleasure Condoms: Light bulb shaped design adds pleasure to him and her.

Why Overweight Men Have Less Sex

2006-11-30T09:28:00.000-08:00

Are you overweight and wonder why you are not an optimum performer when it comes to having sex? Is it becoming more difficult to get and sustain an erection? If yes, the simple answer to your problem might be your weight problem.

Research shows that nearly 30 million men in the United States have an Erectile Dysfunction (ED) problem, but surprising, 50% of this, or 15 million men suffering this problem are overweight; check this out:

Researchers found that men with waistlines of 42 inches were twice as likely to have erectile dysfunction (ED) as men with 32-inch waistlines. A study of nearly 2,000 men age 51 to 88, conducted by Eric Rimm, an associate professor of epidemiology and nutrition at the Harvard School of Public Health, indicated that more than a third of the participants suffered moderate to severe erectile dysfunction. In addition to weighing more, these men were also likely to be less active and suffer from associated health conditions such as high blood pressure and high cholesterol.

( Source Psychology Today)

This study makes total sense as an erected penis is related to good circulation, so if extra pounds are the problem, bad circulation can be all "around" you. If you wanted or were looking for a better reason to lose weight, here you have it, lose weight and have more and better sex.

On the other hand, if you want to prevent future problems with ED, keep exercising and follow a healthy diet, this will prevent your sex life from being at a risk.

On a past post I also mentioned how being overweight can trick your head making you feel that your penis is small. Having fat deposits in your belly and pubic area makes the penis sink in, hide out, giving you an illusion that is smaller. So there you have it, go for a walk and get on a healthy diet to lose those extra pounds.

What Is The Real Penis Size - Interesting Poll Results

2006-11-29T01:34:00.000-08:00

A lot of women say size doesn't matter while others say it does, which of both groups is really saying the truth? Some say is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean, while others say you just have to know how to use it.

The reality here is that the majority of males are or have been insecure about their member named penis. I got some some interesting poll results on the favorite female sex positions out of sexinfo101.com in which I was really surprised by some results.

Today, I have some poll results on the size of an erect penis, as we can see 33175 males answered this poll, I am sure some were honest, while others wanted to feel special by lying.

A lot of research through the years has shown that the average erect penis ranges from 5-6 inches and that is reflected in this poll. Now, there are many things that might make you "believe" or "see" that you have a small penis. For example, when was the last time you called the landscape company to remove all that jungle of pubs? its obvious mr. penis is going to be hard to see with all those bushes in there.

Another thing, do you have a few, or extra few pounds on your body? Fat tends to sit on our belly and on the pubic area bone, making the penis kind of hide in in all of that fat, so two suggestions: Lose some weight and call the landscape company, I am sure you will notice a difference after the makeover.

MALE ERECT PENIS SIZE POLL

How long is your erect penis?
less then 3"	236 (1%)

3-4"	540 (2%)

4-5"	2243 (7%)

5-6"	10573 (32%)

6-7"	12500 (38%)

7-8"	5267 (16%)

8-9"	1194 (4%)

10"+	622 (2%)

Total: 33175

Female Favorite Sexual Positions Findings

2006-11-28T13:06:00.000-08:00

Hey guys, I found some really interesting information that I know you will find very useful, so lets get into this. When it comes to having a healthy sexual relationship with your partner, communication and variety are the keys of success.

What do I mean by variety? Variety by more things to do within one spectrum, which is sex. Many people are scared to try different positions, this can be due to insecurity or other things, but thats where communication comes in.

It is always good to know what your partner likes and dislikes, knowing this will just re-enforce your relationship even more and make it more enjoyable. While browsing the web, i found some interesting poll results at sex info 101, a website where sexual advice is given.

FEMALE FAVORITE SEXUAL POSITIONS

What is your favorite sexual position?
Male on Top - Both Laying (Missionary)	7985 (29%)

Female on Top - Both Laying	1966 (7%)

Female on Top - She Sitting Up, Facing	5749 (21%)

Female on Top - She Sitting Up, Facing Away	989 (4%)

Rear Entry - Both Laying (Spooning)	1394 (5%)

Rear Entry - Male Standing/Kneeling	5450 (20%)

Rear Entry - Both Seated (Female Facing Away)	565 (2%)

Seated (Both) - Facing	1205 (4%)

Sideways - Face to Face	785 (3%)

Other	1171 (4%)

Total: 27259

Anyways, the results show the top favorite female sexual positions; I was surprised by a few, but I guess a lot has to do with monotony. Tomorrow I will present you guys with the male favorite positions, see how they both compare.

Agloco Beta - Make Money Surfing The Internet

2006-11-27T10:03:00.000-08:00

here is an amazing way you could make money by simply surfing the web by joining Agloco Beta. Agloco Beta is an internet old timer that is coming back with new ideas, but with the same plan they had when they were All Advantage 2.0, paying surfers to simply surf the web and by referring people to do the same. This is no spam, is legitimate, I am doing it and you can do it, too.

Agloco Beta is growing slowly, but steady with great future plans and now is the time to join this company whom will pay you with company shares while the money starts coming in, which shouldn't take long, the more people we refer and the more you refer, the more money we will all learn.

It works pretty simple, once you sign up with Agloco Beta, you follow some simple instruction and download a tool bar/view bar, which will keep record of the time spent surfing the web, this is how Agloco will pay you.

If you refer someone, you will make a percentage of what this individual makes, if this individual refers 5 more, you will make another percentage of what these other 5 people make, so its a win - win situation.

This is an Image of the tool bar/view bar you will download after signing up.

After you refer someone you will start making serious money by network referral marketing, the more you work on it, the more you will earn.

This following picture was obtained from my friend's John Chow Blog, here is an example of how much money you would earn by simply referring 5.

So what are you waiting for? Learn money by doing what we do, surfing the net. Go Sign Up Now and join this amazing network.

Erectile Dysfunction Drugs Misuse - An Open Door For STDs

2006-11-26T17:56:00.000-08:00

Misuse of erectile dysfunction drugs is prevalent everywhere. Its growing popularity is witnessed by a rise in its abuse. Everybody wants to give it a try to satisfy their curiosity attached to it. To control this negative trend which has resulted in an outburst in sexually transmitted diseases (STD), federal health officials met in late September to focus on education efforts surrounding the drugs and their possible link to an increase in HIV infections through high-risk sexual activities.

The three prominent erectile dysfunction (ED) drugs like Cialis, Levitra and Viagra are linked with substance abuse among gay men. Ever since its arrival in the market, these drugs have been immensely popular with men. Most of the time it’s used for treating ED but occasionally, it has been used for recreational purposes as well.

Young population uses it without any medical reason. They mostly want to feel the reaction of the drug after it enters the body. As a result, they often get indulged in unprotected sex which can result in severely dreaded STD like HIV. STDs are mostly associated with unprotected sex and an onset of these diseases can prove very fatal to our health.

Study indicates that Viagra has resulted in unsafe sex in various cases. Unprotected sex normally happens in accidental encounters when the sexual act is not a planned one. This sort of unplanned sexual escapades can bring along hordes of disease in your life. Normally gay men with erectile difficulty opt for unsafe sex with their male partners after consuming Viagra. A proper erection attained by using the wonder pill inspires them to achieve all their hidden sexual fantasies and desires.

Though a good sex life indicates good health but unprotected sex can be a dangerous thing to do. So opt for safe sex to protect yourself from STDs.

By: Jags Parker

The Masturbation Stigma

2006-11-26T00:44:00.000-08:00

For some people talking about masturbation is like talking about committing a crime or something similar, can you imagine recommending it to people? Masturbation is a normal thing to do, why do some people or certain societies have to see it as something evil, as something people must not do?

Scientific research has shown that there is nothing wrong with masturbation, actually, masturbating is a healthy thing to do, it lets you explore your body and lets you find what feels good and what doesn't, this way you can have a better sexual relationship with your partner if you have one.

Also, masturbating releases tension and stress by achieving an orgasm. People supporting the stigma that masturbation is bad often rely on myths that say masturbation will make you go crazy or create mental instability, which is untrue. If you are one of these people, please get out of that stigma and promote masturbation as a normal thing to do, there is nothing wrong it doing it or talking about it.

Now, if you are a regular on this, well, to kill monotony you can add different things to your pleasure time; things such as toys or making masturbation a part of your sexual act with your partner, there is nothing more exciting than seeing your other half pleasuring themselves while you do the same.

Its all about communication, acceptance and exploration, enjoy life because yesterday is gone and tomorrow might not be here, live the moment.

Some Interesting Masturbation Myths:

*Masturbating will make you go blind, bald and get acne. False! If this was true we would all be blind, bald and full of acne.
*Masturbation will stunt your grow. False, Big Lie!
*Masturbating wont let you be fertile, have any kids. False, for some reason, the world population keeps growing, just like people keep masturbating.

Some Cool Masturbating Benefits:

* It reduces muscle tension, stress and anxiety.
* It aids you to sleep better as it relaxes your whole body.
* Stimulate your immune system, making you less prone to some infections.
* Increases Serotonin and Norepinephrine, the feeling good hormones.
* And last, but not lease, it simply feels great to masturbate!

What Do Multi-Orgasmic Women Have In Common?

2006-11-21T02:39:00.000-08:00

Sex can be composed by love, by attraction, by sensualism and by a multitude of other things, but the main culmination of sex is always to have an explosive and magical orgasm.

Sadly, for a lot of women having and experiencing an orgasm is one of the most difficulties things they have to go through; in reality, for women to achieve an orgasm is more difficult if compared to males.

Today I was reading an article on the psychology magazine Psychology Today and found a really interesting article. For some women, having one or two orgasm is nothing, they are the multi-orgasmic females, but what do these girls have in common that the others might not have? Well, take a look at this:

What do 805 Professional nurses know?

A multiple orgasm when they experience one. And enough about the anatomy and physiology of sexual responsiveness not to blush at a detailed questionnaire. And so they came to reveal the secrets of the multi orgasmic experience to a team of scientific researchers from the University of Wisconsin.

First off, women who have multiple orgasms prove different from those who don't. They are more likely to have examined their clitoris, and to have both given and received oral-genital stimulation. They like their bare breasts fondled and their nipples kissed. They are more likely to enhance clitoral stimulation during intercourse by thigh pressure or masturbation.

They are more likely to have engaged in mental stimulation via erotic fantasies, films, and literature. And they discovered some pleasures at an earlier age: sensations from the clitoris, masturbation, and orgasm.

Women with multiple orgasms don't just get them by accident. Having identified what they like, they choose the techniques that maximize their pleasure and communicate to their partners what arouses them most, the researchers report in Archives of Sexual Behavior.

More than anything, to transmute the sensations of physiology into the psychology of satisfaction takes a sensitive and communicative partnership. The emotional interaction that comes with partner involvement makes women who usually experience multiple orgasm more satisfied with sexual intercourse than their singly orgasmic sisters.

Able to satisfy more of their sexual needs, these women are well-equipped to form stable, satisfying relationships. They may be the vanguard in bringing sex back home.

Squeeze All The Juice From Your Sex Life - Tips For Better Sex

2006-11-20T03:26:00.000-08:00

Having a better sexy relationship doesn't only have to do with sexual performance or with having a great love relationship, sometimes there is more to sex, like squeezing all the juice possible from all sources and make your sex life a true pleasure explosion. This following article is amazing on how to better your sex life with your other half and enjoy every second of it.

It is no doubt that sex plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is a great sexual experience.

Yet, many people are having problems enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.

The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realize that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.

Experimenting on these sex tips allows you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.

The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.

The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.

Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.

Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.

Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to use it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.

Try out new positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it.

Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.

You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his/her own.

At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.

By: Leah Holden

Are You Sexually Addicted? 10 Questions To Ask Yourself.

2006-11-18T16:49:00.000-08:00

When it comes to addiction, sex, drugs and eating are the top listers to mention, but it seems that its easier to accept if you are addicted to eating or to drugs than to sex.

Being sexually addicted is a problem that must be treated, if not, it can cause great distress in your life and certainly ruin it. I found a great article online on sexual addiction written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, a leading expert on extramarital affairs and couple therapy.

If you, or someone you know believes is addicted to sex, the first thing you must do is accepted and seek help, believe me, you are not the only one suffering of this disorders, there are millions of people out there.

There are many things in our culture that grab us and won't let go. Sometimes sex is one of them. Perhaps that's the case for you or your spouse/partner.

Sexual addiction plays a prominent role in the "I Can't Say No" kind of extramarital affair I outline in my E-book, "Break Free From the Affair."

These questions are intended to help you be more aware of some behaviors that perhaps indicate that sex has a hold on you.

If you answer yes to three or more questions it probably is wise to take a closer look at the place of sex in your life.

1) Do I have sex at inappropriate times, inappropriate places and/or with the wrong people?

2) Do I make promises to myself or rules for myself concerning my sexual behavior that I find I cannot follow?

3) Have I lost count of the number of sexual partners I've had in the past 3 years?

4) Do I have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?

5) Do I feel uncomfortable about my masturbation, the fantasies I engage in, the props I use, and/or the places in which I do it?

6) Do I feel jaded, exhausted, cynical? Am I on the path to that?

7) Do I feel that my life is unmanageable because of my sexual behavior?

8) Do I have sex as a way to deal with or escape from life's problems? Do I feel entitled to sex? Do I feel as though I have earned sex?

9) Do I have a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity on my part?

10) Do I feel that my sexual life affects my spiritual life in a negative way?

8 Healthy Benefits Of An Orgasm

2006-11-17T01:15:00.000-08:00

Sex is a vital part of life, its just an amazing thing. Having a healthy sexual life with your other half contributes to overall happiness of a successful relationship, sex is the best, it simply kicks ass!

Sex, when practiced safe and with the right people just makes your life better in every way possible, right? I am sure many of you agree with me, but there is something more to sex, if its sensation wasn't enough!

Having sex and having a sexual orgasm benefits your health greatly, isn't that another great reason to have more sex? Let me share with you these 5 amazing benefits of an orgasm published in 2004 by Times Magazine:

8 Benefits Of A Sexual Orgasm:

1) It Lowers Your Risk Of Having A Heart Attack.

2) Burns About 200 Calories Per Episode On Average. If We Can Do 5 Of This A Day, Thats 1000 Calories, This Is What I Call A Real Way To Lose Weight!

3) Releases Endorphins That Help With Chronic Pain Problems.

4) Boosts The Immune System.

5) Releases Oxytocin And DHEA, Which Inhibits The Development Of Breast Cancer.

6) It Increases Your Longevity. Want To Make It To A 100 Years Old? Have More Sex!

7) Calms Anxiety And Stress.

8) It Helps You With Sleeping Better. After Reading this you won't only have an excuse, but eight to have sex, its simply healthy!

Top 10 Sex Myths

2006-11-14T00:49:00.000-08:00

Myths are statements that sound to be true when in reality they are pure bologne, or simply a lie. There are many sexual myths out there that tend to create confusion among many people and this confusion is a definite way to distress or embarrassment when you don't know what is right or wrong. Here, I will supply you with the TOP 10 sexual myths:

1) MASTURBATION IS BAD FOR YOU: This is wrong! Actually, masturbation is a really good way to enable a personal relationship with what you like and dislike when it comes to sexual feelings and sensations. Masturbation doesn't cause hairy palms, insomnia or blindness; masturbation is a normal thing to do

2) CONDOMS PROTECT YOU FROM ALL STDs: While condoms are a great way to prevent some STDs and unwanted pregnancies,they don't protect you from all STDs. For example you can still get genital herpes, syphilis or warts.

3) PENIS SIZE MATTERS: Size DOESN'T matter! The average erected penis ranges from 5 to 6 inches. Many research has been done on this issue and those have been the findings. A large penis is not required to satisfy a female since most of the vaginal sensation is in the first 3-4 inches of their vagina; this is where most of the nerve endings connect.

4) YOU CAN'T GET PREGNANT YOUR FIRST TIME HAVING SEX: It doesn't matter if its your first or thousand time having sex. If you are having unprotected sex you WILL still get pregnant, so don't use this as a contraceptive method, because you will get pregnant, there is no difference.

5) NO HYMEN MEANS NO VIRGINITY: It is very sad that a female can be labeled as virgin or not because of the hymen. The hymen is a simple thin membrane at the entrance of the vagina that can break by running, falling or simply by doing nothing, so this is a huge myth, your virginity is not label accordingly by having a hymen or not.

6) HOMOSEXUALS CARRY AIDS: Of course not! For AIDS, there is no color, ethnic background or sexual preference. If you don't protect yourself, you can get HIV-AIDs, and it doesn't matter if you are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, transexual, you will still get it!

7) ALL TEENAGERS ARE HAVING SEX: Many teenagers are having sex nowadays, but a huge percentage of them are not. 30 years ago, many teenagers were having sex, but many were not, I think the media is making this myth sound like a reality.

8) A FEMALE CAN'T GET PREGNANT WHILE BREASTFEEDING: Although a female that is breastfeeding doesn't have her period, she can still get pregnant, so again, don't use this method as a contraceptive.

9) ORAL SEX IS NOT REALLY SEX: Heck yeah it is, it might not be as personal or intimate as intercourse, but oral sex is still sex.

10) SEX IS OVER AFTER MENOPAUSE: No its not! Although during menopause the body goes through many and difficult hormonal changes, there can still be sexual life after this stage, its a matter of taking the right medications and sometimes the right psychotherapy.

Sex Tip Of The Day - Talking Or Not?

2006-11-12T13:01:00.000-08:00

When it comes to sexual preferences, likes and dislikes, your mind is the limit. Some people enjoy being dirty, being loud and very talktative when it comes to having sex and its culminating phases; other people enjoy the quite scence, where only the breathing and heart pounding of each one can be heard and felt.

But when it comes to sex, monotony is a major enemy we want to fight off and the best way to do this is by using variety and experimentation. So tell me, are you the kind that is loud and crazy, or the sensual quiet one?

Whichever of these two you are, the reality of sex and your sexual life is that you have to try one or the other, so for your next sexual session try to do the opposite of what you usually do. If you are the quite one, be loud, be talktative, be more verbally expressive; if you are the loud one, try to bring that voice down and be more intimate, focus more on your body language, on your eyes, the smell, your breathing.

Variety is the key to fix many sexual problems in any relationship; by being different you break the "usual" habit, and believe me, by changing a thing or two, your sexual experience can change by a lot; there will be other feelings, sensations and thoughts that will make you and your couple feel different in every sense.

So the tip of the day is change your usual sexual language, be loud if you are usually quiet, or be quiet if you are usually loud, you will be surprised how much your sex life will improve and how a simple change in routine can mean a big change in your sexual relationship.

5 Amazing Tips To Spice Up Your Sex Life

2006-11-08T15:12:00.000-08:00

Sex in a relationship is one of the most important things to maintain a relation stable, but many times your sex life becomes boring and monotonous, making your relationship bored and weak.

A lot of things you can do to spice up your sex life, one of the most important things is communication within the couple and see what indeed is causing this problem. Monotony is something that will get to anything, so to prevent this, you can do some changes, add some stuff and do some tweaking to your sexual life and make it better.

I will share with you 5 Amazing things you can do to break the monotony and give life and joy to that part of your relationship.

1) Plan ahead: If you plan ahead to a night of amazing love making with your couple, this will spice up your sexual life amazingly because a lot of psychological and physiological changes will go within you. Leave your couple a note, be naughty with her/him. Send them a provocative out of the ordinary email or a text message, give a shift change to your ordinary stuff.

2) Try new things: Try new sexual positions, try new games, try different things so you can break out of the ordinary. Who care if someone might think you are crazy, "others" don't have to know, you concentrate in your couple and make crazy things, this will give it a nice spice and make things unforgettable.

3) Change Settings: 80% of people see the bedroom as the sexual palace, but what about the kitchen, the bathroom, the hall, the car, the dinner table, the laundry room? Change settings, be crazy and wild.

4) Get Messy: Use Fruits, Whip Cream, And other eatable accessories in your sex life. Be creative and make your sex life more than simple intercourse, include the foreplay that comes with using these nutritious things in your sex life, remember, be creative, be crazy, just do it.

5) Be Creative: Be creative when it comes to your sex life. Role playing is an amazing tool to break monotony, you are the limit, so talk to your partner and be crazy, simply enjoy life and create a big explosion when it comes to your sexual life; believe me, this will have a positive impact in all of your life categories.

Remember that to have an amazing sex life, you must have good communication with your partner. Communication is the best tool to prevent and fix problems and if you cant truly communicate with your partner, nothing else will workout. Break the ice to start communicating, if you can't talk directly to her, write her a letter, a note, but break the ice to enable communication again.

Is your Sexual LIfe Boring?

2006-10-28T18:06:00.000-07:00

As a sexologist I get to talk to many men and women about sex. The funny thing is that most people I talk to tell me that they think others are having a much greater sex life than they are. Generally they say that their own sex is pretty boring and non exciting.

The longer the couple has been together the more boring sex seems to have become. Of course there are couples that have great sex and have been together for ages. These couples are rare in my experience.

A recent study found that in 2 years of marriage, the women's interest in sex had dropped off about 50%. There was also a lot less intercourse per week. So what can one do to spice up ones sex life? I like to think of sex in 3 flavours.

The first one is partner connection. Women generally love this style of lovemaking. In this flavour the emotional connection with your lover is most important. Generally, couples when they first fall in love have a lot of partner connection in sex.

There is a lot of eye gazing, touch and emotions flowing and sex is really just great. It seems to flow and there is much hugging, touch and foreplay. So how does one get more of this connections with your partner. One tip in sex to get more of this flavour is to open your eyes during sex. I find most couple do not even take a look at their lover.

The eyes connect and the emotions can flow thought he eyes. for the more advanced, I suggest to open your eyes during orgasm. Most men find this a challenge but it can be done! The second flavour of lovemaking is what I like to call trance. In this style one goes into oneself and is totally in ones own fantasy, sensations or a trance like state. Eyes are closed as the connection with your partner is not important. Most men seem to like trance. I did have a lover that loved going into trance.

However, I just felt I was a travel agent taking her to amazing places. Since I could not come along I felt unsatisfied. The touch was one way and I found this frustrating. I did communicate this and she did start to touch me more. The third flavour is role playing. This can be a great deal of fun. One can act out ones fantasies or take on roles of the sexual healer or priest. How about becoming animals?.

Bondage games fall into this type of play. Generally this is more challenging for most people. However playing roles really can spice up your sex life. With my clients I suggest they start to explore the flavours that they are weak on.

Most couples do not play roles as it is a bit scary. I suggest to pass through is fear and really start to explore. If you have boring sex, you are actually committed to this on some level. Challenge your lover to do something different and you might have to compromise too. Suggest your lover takes the lead in trying something new too. Above all, have fun.

By: Maurice Tate

What Can Hypnosis Do To Make Your Sex Life More Exciting?

2006-10-28T18:01:00.000-07:00

After you have induced a state of hypnotic self-relaxation concentrate on your specific sexual problem, assuming you have one. Ask yourself a series of questions. In answering them during your self-analysis stage of autohypnosis, try to develop some understanding of your particular sexual maladjustment. You will surprise yourself as to how much self-insight you can gain in this way, which will enable you to find solution to your problem.

When a psychiatrists succeeds in getting his patient to develop insight into his own problem (referred to as "insight therapy) he has practically achieved half the cure. For example, if you are aware of having a faulty attitude about sex because of some negative beliefs or habits, tell yourself that you can and will develop a more positive attitude.

If you are living in the past, tormenting yourself with guilt feelings because of some past sexual wrongdoing, accept the self hypnotic suggestion that you are going to close the door to the past, forgive yourself and devote your efforts toward making a better future sexual adjustments.
Some of the questions to ask yourself:

- Do I have guilt feelings about past sexual experience, which is interfering with my ability to enjoy sexual relationship with my wife or husband?
- Is sexual disharmony the root cause of my marital unhappiness?
- As a wife I am I assuming my sexual responsibility as a woman by not frustrating the sexual ego of my husband?
- As a husband do I give my wife the love and tenderness she needs to make her more responsive sexually?
- What can I do to bring about an improvement in my sexual relationship with my husband or wife
- Am I willing to consult a specialist for the remedy of a sexual problem particularly when all efforts at self-help have failed?

Here are the 10 positive suggestions, men and women, which I recommend that you repeat to yourself again -again -and again. The repetition of an idea or thought conditions you to the successful acceptance and application of what you need and to believe. You will be rewarded with sex happiness - essential to good physical and emotional health.

Positive Suggestions For Women:

1. I'm always enjoying my sexual life and having complete sexual fulfillment with my husband.

2. I'm making my love relationship a reciprocal one, realizing that the mutual giving of love is the secret of sex harmony.

3. I'm convinced that a happy sexual life is essential for a happy married life.

4. I'm always making my husband a sexually satisfied person.

5. I'm reminding myself that four-fifths of all divorces are caused by sexual incompatibility. With my happy love life, I'm convinced my marriage will last forever.

Positive Suggestions for Men

1. I'm convinced that attitude is all-important to understanding and correcting my sexual problem.

2. I'm developing positive attitude and feelings. And the more sex I've the more I enjoy it.

3. I'm becoming more and more sexually literate by reading a authoritative manuals, improve my lovemaking technique and increase my capacity for sex satisfaction.

4. I'm always positively discussing sexual matters with my wife.

5. I'm intelligent enough to seek competent professional help If I suffer from some deep-seated sexual problem, which I cannot resolve myself.

Remind yourself that you are a better lover than you think you are. Don't be obsessed with the idea that you don't have the ability to love. Learn to experience the emotion of love within yourself. You'll soon discover that you'll want to and can love someone else. Self love (the normal type) should precede man woman love.

By: Pradeep Aggarwal

Smoking and Drinking - Sources of Male Sexual Health Problems

2006-10-28T17:55:00.000-07:00

Studies published by the medical and health community are unanimous. As much as forty percent of men in North America experience some form of sexual health dysfunction. Because many men refuse to face the truth, several experts believe the true figure to be much higher.

Health diseases, such as cholesterol, hypertension and diabetes, are common causes for erectile dysfunctions. However, lifestyle choices like drinking and smoking are also a major factor causing sexual health disruptions and are often overlooked. In reality, drinking and smoking have a negative effect on the normal flow of blood and directly interfere with male sexual performance.

Various studies have established a direct correlation between a quality sex life and a healthy blood flow. While diet, exercise and appropriate supplements effectively promote the sexual performance of men by maintaining and enhancing their level of libido, sperm production and motility and sexual activity, they do not guarantee positive results for people who smoke and drink large quantities of on a daily basis.

Not to mention men that consume drugs such as cocaine, heroine and ecstasy which interfere even more with their blood flow or their stamina. A recent study conducted by the Section of Endocrinology of the Lahey Hitchcock Medical Center, Burlington, Massachusetts, revealed that smoking causes an important reduction in the number of spontaneous erections occuring during sleep.

These erections are one of the most significant indication of a quality blood flow and good sexual health. A drop in the frequency or intensity of erections indicate a risk that some form of erectile dysfunction may develop in the short run. The study has also shown that refraining from smoking for as little as 24 hours brought about a dramatic increase in the quality of spontaneous erections.

Needless to say, smoking also has several other "side effects" such as high blood pressure and lung cancer. Another study conducted by the Department of Psychiatry from the University Medical School of Lubeck, Germany, concluded that heavy drinkers suffer more often from erectile dysfunction than those having an occasional drink.

Alcohol tends to induce a pleasant state of relaxation and is generally thought to have a positive effect on the libido. Nothing is further from the truth. It is a suppressant and has a major negative impact on the libido. It also reduces the ability for men to achieve and maintain a quality erection.

The Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory, which is managed and operated by the University of California, has conducted its own study regarding the effects of smoking among teenagers. Their findings were frightening. They revealed that smoking has a disastrous impact on the quality of semen and that teenagers who are heavy smokers are jeopardizing their chances to have children and also increasing the risk of having children who suffer from various genetic problems due to the damaged DNA received from the father or mother.

Let's cite one last study, conducted by The University of Berne, Switzerland. The results of their own research unveiled facts backing the findings of the University of California. Statistical analysis conducted in Switzerland demonstrated significantly lower semen quality in smokers compared with non-smokers. Sperm concentration was also strongly affected. Men are free to make their own decisions.

Freedom of choice is an important principle that comes with consequences. Not even the energy of youth can offset the toll that smoking and drinking are bound to take on male sexual health. There are some things that should be sacrificed for the sake of a healthy and satisfying sex life. Let me ask you this delicate question : Should drinking and smoking be one of those?

Most Common Men's Sexual Health Problems

2006-10-28T17:41:00.000-07:00

Sexual difficulties are nearly undeniable, each and every man faces some kind of sexual problem at some point in his life, it might be a temporary issue or a permanent disorder. Be smart enough to tackle such petty disorders, do not let them hamper your marital or love life.

Some very familiar male sexual difficulties involve getting or keeping an erection, ejaculating too rapidly, or difficulty reaching orgasm. What is hard enough, fast enough, and time enough is best decided by the people involved, rather than by a clock or some arbitrary standard. Do consider the below mentioned vital points before taking any decision

* Problems in sustaining or keeping erection, also termed as Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation are some of the common disorder's hampering male's sexual health. Such problems are entirely normal; do not make it a sexual issue.

* Uneven sexual desire and dissimilar preferences in sexual style are normal and inevitable in long-term relationships. It is how you handle these that makes the difference.

* The sexual drive or the urge to make sex differs in men. Like women, lots of men know what it is like to feel pressured by their spouse's larger sexual appetite. Therefore do not over expect from your man.

* Do not let sexual difficulties get over your relationship; it is usually observed that men's sexual disfunction creates a rift between your intimacies. When either partner has frequent dysfunction or low desire, both partners eventually retreat during sex into separate mental worlds of worry and frustration. Try to sort out the issue with mutual discussion, co-ordination and help.

Sexual dysfunctions are a common phenomenon, Sexual boredom, lack of intimacy, low desire, and passionless sex are common and inevitable developments, potentially, mid-stages in the evolution of your relationship. Underneath common sexual difficulties, the natural processes of self-development are often playing out. Dissatisfactory sex does not indicate that something is going, or has gone, wrong.

More importantly male sexual problem cans be easily treated through medications. Why to hesitate when you already have an option to treat yourself. Oral pills like Viagra, Cialis and Levitra can easily surpass erectile dysfunction and help you regain your sexual life.

Do not blame everything on sexual incompatibility, or the signs of aging or disease. And do not reduce current sexual problems to things from the past; it may be the natural growth processes of your relationship at work in the present. To get the sex, intimacy, desire, and passion many of us want, there is a lot of growing up to do.

By: Jane Morris